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thisbirdhasflown said
Yes, I see your point. They did lack some character. And you can't call "strength" abusive behavior. It's just that they weren't the only weak ones. There were several other weak members and Yoko fixed it. Even when you're addicted, you can still be strong with strong people, and Yoko was strong.
But part of my point is that I don't see Cynthia or May as weak. I think given what was thrown into their laps, they are incredibly strong women. You can't throw a hurricane at someone and then blame them when they barely keep their heads above water.
Also, I don't think we know enough or John lived long enough to determine that anything about him was "fixed." Addiction is a lifetime struggle. And there are conflicting reports of how late in the 70s John might have cleaned up, and there are rumors that Yoko herself was addicted and that she may have even worsened his addiction. For all we know, Yoko may have less to do with his cleaning up than the fact that Sean came into his life.
I just think we need to question the conventional narrative. Cynthia and May and other people who've survived abuse deserve better.
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She said this at the beginning of their trip to LA, before he did anything.
She was their assistant and had some idea of what he was like before the trip to LA, so it's natural she'd have some misgivings. That's not the same as saying she was weak, though.
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thisbirdhasflown said
Yes, I see your point. They did lack some character. And you can't call "strength" abusive behavior. It's just that they weren't the only weak ones. There were several other weak members and Yoko fixed it. Even when you're addicted, you can still be strong with strong people, and Yoko was strong.
But part of my point is that I don't see Cynthia or May as weak. I think for what was thrown into their laps, they are incredibly strong women. You can't throw a hurricane at someone and then blame them when they barely keep their heads above water. Also, I don't think we know enough or John lived long enough to determine that anything about him was "fixed." Addiction is a lifetime struggle. And there are conflicting reports of how late in the 70s John might have cleaned up, and there are rumors that Yoko herself was addicted and that she may have even worsened his addiction. For all we know, Yoko may have less to do with his cleaning up than the fact than Sean coming into his life. I just think we need to question the conventional narrative. Cynthia and May and other people who've survived abuse deserve better. parlance
@parlance I think, yes, they were very strong for what happened. It just wasn't enough. And yes, the truth about his addiction will be unsolved because we don't know how it ended.
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thisbirdhasflown said
Yes, I see your point. They did lack some character. And you can't call "strength" abusive behavior. It's just that they weren't the only weak ones. There were several other weak members and Yoko fixed it. Even when you're addicted, you can still be strong with strong people, and Yoko was strong.
But part of my point is that I don't see Cynthia or May as weak. I think given what was thrown into their laps, they are incredibly strong women. You can't throw a hurricane at someone and then blame them when they barely keep their heads above water.
Also, I don't think we know enough or John lived long enough to determine that anything about him was "fixed." Addiction is a lifetime struggle. And there are conflicting reports of how late in the 70s John might have cleaned up, and there are rumors that Yoko herself was addicted and that she may have even worsened his addiction. For all we know, Yoko may have less to do with his cleaning up than the fact that Sean came into his life.
I just think we need to question the conventional narrative. Cynthia and May and other people who've survived abuse deserve better.
parlance
Having a brother with an addiction problem has shown me that there really is nothing you can do for someone like that if they aren't willing to help themselves. How Cynthia managed to put up with John for as long as she did AND have a child AND go through Beatlemania, I will never know.
Maybe this is naive, but the way I see it, Yoko helped John escape his problems while Cynthia and May gave him the kind of support he needed to actually deal with his problems and grow up - they showed him it was ok to be vulnerable and helped him to embrace his most sensitive loving side. That's extremely important.
Does anyone have quotes about John's addiction problems in the later 70's? I hear about it a lot, but where is this information coming from?
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Too lazy to write it out in my own words. From Wogblog
Today's Daily Mail has the story and photos of a 19 year old fan who turned up uninvited on John’s doorstep in 1968 and was invited in for breakfast with John and Yoko. The fan, Michael Herring, later shared a car ride with John to George Harrison’s house to see the Beatles recording – and he witnessed the opening of a letter said to announce McCartney’s resignation.
Call me sceptical but i dont see George and John sitting down in George's home with a stranger they'd just met and commenting about Paul leaving in front of him.
For someone with more authority Mark Lewisohn is quoted in the Daily Mail article.
Last night, Mark Lewisohn, a leading authority on the Beatles, said Mr Herring’s photographs were ‘fantastic because they capture a moment in history’.
But he cast doubt on the revelations about Paul’s resignation letter, saying: ‘There’s no way that can be accurate because the Eastmans had no part in Paul’s life until his relationship with Linda began in October 1968, and there was no way Paul was quitting at this point. They had a number of sessions at George’s house and Paul was certainly at most of them – maybe not this one – because we have the recordings.’
But he added: ‘This does not undermine the general story, which I do believe.
Hunter Davies is included too but his section is too long to add here.
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Oddly, the more I listen to the solo albums again (after having had them before on release) the more I am comfortable with the timing of the breakup. The 70s really had some great efforts from all four and it's unlikely they would have gone much past that as a group.
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