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If someone stole and trashed one of your vintage collectables, what would you have them buy you in consollation?
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12 November 2013
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bnybny
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Hello kind souls : )

I just found out that a very cherished Beatle relic of mine from childhood was thrown out by my father during a period when he was ticked off at me.  I'd had it nearly 35 years and it'd been in the family safety deposit box at the bank.  I had no access to it, but he did and now he says he took it out and has no idea what happened to it.  But he did tell me he took it out and "lost" it during a period when he was mad at me.  He didn't tell me at the time when he took it out.  He just told me today, when I naively asked him to check on it when he went to the bank today.

I found the Beatles shortly after I regained my hearing as a small child, 5 years old.  The first album I listened to was Sgt. Pepper.  Since then they've been a daily, intimate part of my life.  One of the most important parts of my life.  Their music carried me through things I shouldn't have been able to have survived, many times.  He's always known how much they've meant to me, so I can only guess that he meant to hurt me in one of the very most painful ways possible.  He's trying to deflect the blame to me, because I upset him.  I've never taken or damaged any of his things.  In fact, knowing he's a music lover, I took him to look at I Pods yesterday.

I've decided to handle this situation as best I can.  I'll find the same vintage mirror that he "lost" online and re-buy it, but, I've also decided that he'll buy me something for my troubles that he initiated.  That's why I'm here.  Within reason, what would you have them buy you as consolation?  Collectable-wise?

I do believe in peace and love and understanding, that's how I live my life.  This situation just cuts me to the bone.  I have so little and for someone I love to take something so precious and meaningful.  It destroys my trust of someone I love almost completely.  It just calls for a kindness to be repaid (I guess, "The best things in life are free/but you can keep 'em for the birds and bees" in this case.)

((Thank you Beatles people))

 

 

12 November 2013
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bnybny
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He already knows he's buying me back the mirror he trashed and something as consolation, I told him.  I've spent my life letting all the little things slide and more.  "Not A Second Time" is kind of the message I care to send.  It's hard to believe you can love someone but not trust them, but that's it.  I'm the one who gave him the asprin when he was having a heart attack 2 months ago, now he's attacked my heart, and not randomly either.

His own mother threw away numerous precious childhood possessions he had and I've been hearing about that for 40 years.  Comforting him over it for ages.  For him to turn around and do the same thing is inexcusable. 

The family won't fall apart because of this only b/c I won't let it happen (my mom's equally ticked that he did this, and she's part of the social glue of the family, too.) He's not getting a free pass on this, it meant too much and he should've known better.  Like I told him, the only worse things he could have done would've been to deprive me of my family or kill my dog.  I know it's a lot more Hammurabi than the Vedas, I'll do the spiritual atonement, it's up to him to do the material atonement.

So the family will be fine, what I'm asking is ideas for great collectables to buy. 

Any suggestions?

12 November 2013
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13 November 2013
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I think going after a Sgt. Pepper collectible makes sense as it was the first album you heard. There are some Beatles dolls made by Applause that might be nice. I have the whole set of Sgt. Pepper dolls, though they would be out of your price range for all of them. I bought mine piece meal on EBay. Pick your favorite Beatle and buy him. I like them because they are tangible (like "ragdolls"). They also sell a set of plastic Sgt Pepper figures on EBay. You can buy those individually, too. They are not as much as the Applause dolls. Good luck to you. I hope things work out for you.

"And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."

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